The Need to Know


Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent. – Dalai Lama

I am in the department of research and development. I research testing trends – what works, what doesn’t. I design tests based on our customer’s needs and based on data. These tests are taken throughout the school year in various school districts across the country.

We build the test, we pilot the test, then we score the test. The results that come back indicate our next plan of action. We may find that an item was bad because nearly every student missed it. So, we toss it out and replace it with a new one. We might find one item was totally bias, so we toss it out too.

Our customer can be demanding too. They want perfection. Nine times out of 10, today’s work ends up in tomorrow’s trash. It’s all a part of the game. In this business, we grow thick skin and roll with the punches.

My need for research often trickles out into my personal life. My guilty pleasure is kicking back with a People magazine and “researching” the celebrity gossip as my friends call it. Yes, I need to know what life is like for the Gosselin’s after reality t.v. Did Mattie Gosselin grow out of her bratty stage? Lord, I hope so 🙂 I want to know how baby George is adjusting to his new life in the royal family. Is he sleeping at night? How is Kate adjusting? I can’t help it. I’m a “need to know” kind of girl. 🙂

This “need to know business” sometimes gets me in trouble in social media. Let’s face it. I have trust issues. If you are willing to put your business in the street, then I’m pretty sure I’m just as willing to pick it up and read it. It’s so easy. It’s right at the tip of my fingers.

Recently, I was called out for my “stalking”. He said, “I know you stalk me.” Listen here buddy, it is not “stalking” it is researching, remember? Besides, stalking equates to crazy and I don’t consider myself to be crazy (or at least I hope not).

To prove to myself that I am not a stalker, I decided to fast Facebook for a few days. I’m happy to report that I made it day one – 24 long hours. It was tough though. I kept finding myself craving the updates and news feeds. What’s going on? Is my cousin Shelly eating lunch somewhere cool today? Did Lori get her workout in at the Y? Did Dana have a mishap in the airport again? I can’t help it. It’s like a drug. Just let me take a drag. All I need is one, just one hit to satisfy my craving.

No. Continue on. You need to break from this need of constantly knowing.

I’m happy to say that I have landed in day two. Whew! I know it’s early to claim victory, but I think the hard part is behind me. The cravings have subsided. Well, out of habit this morning, I found myself typing in the browser “”, but then I hit me, oh, you are fasting, find something else to do like work 🙂

In our constant need to know and to share “what’s on our mind”, I can’t help keep thinking are we sharing just to share or are we sharing to prove something to the world? Does the world need to know just how great we are? Do we need this format to show them or can they see it just by our actions?

I read this passage in the book, Love Gives Life.

Platforms such as Facebook and Twitter encourage focusing on what is distinctive about us, what we are good at, and what people will notice about our contribution in our every day life.

I agree.

The book went on further to say,

We can fall for the delusion that what makes us significant is mainly what causes us to stand out from everyone else, rather than what helps us to serve everyone else.

I agree with that too.

In our need to stand out, we forget we are here to serve others, bless others. We lose sight of our purpose.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying it is wrong to share. I love sharing. I share positive quotes and big wins. I think it motivates people to keep marching on. Look she held on and it paid off.  I love to share pictures of my travel. There is a great big beautiful world out there and everyone should have a chance to see it. I want to share to inspire, not share to boast.

As I continue on my break from the “devil’s playground”, I am learning it is more about what I am sharing and not just about what I am “researching”. If that fool is lying to me, then the truth will surface. Truth always wins. I don’t need to research his updates to ease my fears and doubts. I simply need trust, trust that he is who he says he is.

Social media is just like the tests I create. From time to time, I need to go in and evaluate the data. How did the test score? Do I need to toss out an update because it will hurt someone instead of help them? Do I need to toss it out because it has been found to be biased – prejudiced or unfair?

If this hit home for you, then I’m sorry. This is tough for me too. I’ve been called a “stalker”. That’s a bit tough to swallow. It’s time to develop tough skin and roll with the punches. It’s time to evaluate the data and toss out some things that are just not working or not beneficial.

I’m not saying you have to join my wild crusade, but a little evaluation couldn’t hurt. As for me, I’m marching on. I am determined to see out day 3. Who knows, I might even make a full seven 🙂

P.S. This post feeds to Facebook. I am resisting the temptation to see if it linked correctly or not (yes I am O.C.D. 🙂



One thought on “The Need to Know

  1. It linked up just fine and you are getting positive comments, LOL ~ and just so you know, I’m eating a snack of spinach dip and crackers with water. My life is pure excitement today, no researching needed, LOL.

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