The Validation Point


The word valid implies being supported by objective truth or generally accepted authority.  In life, especially women, we spend most of our time trying to be validated.  In our professions, we need to know that the job was done well.  Personally, we want to feel attractive, valued, and wanted.  We seek the approval of other people instead of being satisfied with what we’ve been given. 

I’ve recently joined a gym and greatly increased the amount of time I work out in the day.  I’ve noticed results in my favor and have had a desire for others to recognize it as well.  I simply need to be validated.  That desire to be validated often goes unfilled, resulting in me soaking in unnecessary hurt feelings.  This question remains.   Why do I need others to validate me?  Why isn’t enough for me to feel better about myself and get myself healthy?

God never fails to show up when I need Him, especially when I pose questions such as those above.  While on my way to the gym, I heard a song (Addison Road’s All That Matters) that I never heard before. 
Here is a tidbit of the lyrics. 

My life comes from the One Who made the stars and brought the sun.  He loves me more than these.  So I don’t need another identity. I may never be the one that gets a second glance.  I may never be the one they call the prettiest.  But that’s alright with me. And maybe I don’t follow every crazy passion.  Spend all my time trying to get a good reaction.  But that’s ok with me. 

In order to have that same attitude (that’s alright with me), I just have to keep walking it out and walking it out.  Confessing my insecurities to Him.  When it’s all said and done, I just want to be a good and faithful servant and keep walking out His plan for me.   The only validation I need is from Him and I want that to be ok with me.

So I leave you with some words to chew on.  I’m not sure if they even pertain to my blog, but they offered comfort in my time of need. 

2 Corinthians 6: 2-10 says, “Our work as God’s servants gets validated—or not—in the details. People are watching us as we stay at our post, alertly, unswervingly . . . in hard times, tough times, bad times; when we’re beaten up, jailed, and mobbed; working hard, working late, working without eating; with pure heart, clear head, steady hand; in gentleness, holiness, and honest love; when we’re telling the truth, and when God’s showing his power; when we’re doing our best setting things right; when we’re praised, and when we’re blamed; slandered, and honored; true to our word, though distrusted; ignored by the world, but recognized by God; terrifically alive, though rumored to be dead; beaten within an inch of our lives, but refusing to die; immersed in tears, yet always filled with deep joy; living on handouts, yet enriching many; having nothing, having it all.”

Love in Christ,


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