I was talking (instant messaging actually) a friend today and he asked when I would be updating my blog. My reply was, “I really don’t have anything to say.” He accepted my answer without questioning, but I really was not satisfied with my response. Really, I don’t have anything to say? I have heard that on average a woman can speak 25,000 words a day and men use more like 10,000. I would have to agree, because I’ve been told recently that I’m a “talker”. So how is it that I am participating in a Bible study titled “Conversation Peace” which focuses on the power of transformed speech and I really don’t have anything to blog about?! Everyday brings about new experiences, new situations, and new people. Everyone one of us has something to say about our day whether it is positive or negative.
I have been learning through this study that words spring up from the ground of our heart. Matthew 12:35 says, “It’s the heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to our words.” Also, healthy speech requires a healthy root. Matthew 12:33 says, “If you grow a healthy tree, you’ll pick healthy fruit. If you grow a diseased tree, you’ll pick worm-eaten fruit. The fruit tells you about the tree.” So in order to grow a healthy tree, don’t you need a healthy foundation? What if the soil around you is in bad shape? What if it is based on lies and deceit? Bad soil can result from insecurities, a failed marriage, a dysfunctional environment.
Just like a gardener should evaluate the quality of the soil of the tree he is planting, we also need to evaluate and analyze the foundation of our words. In my most recent relationship, I have come to realize that insecurities are deep rooted in my heart, therefore, they spill out in my words. It does not make for a beautiful tree…I can assure you! So as painful as it is to recognize my fruits, I know the pain will be far greater once the dirt is dug up! But like any process I must go through, I have to trust in the Great Landscaper that He will restore me and plant a tree that will truly reflect His beauty. Remember this…one word can ruin a career, destroy a relationship, and change history. So I ask you, are your words refreshing or are they reckless? Do they uplift and add benefit or do they crush and wound the soul of the receiver? Is it time for some new landscape or you simply satisfied with the fruit you display?
Love in Christ,